Rites for Girls website is growing up and moving on!

This site is under reconstruction and is a bit chaotic (much like a teenage brain) – we’ll produce the upgrade with a big tah-dah mid August but in the meantime please email for more information about the Facilitator Training and sign up below for the training taster session on 3rd June.

Join the first Rites for Girls International Facilitator Training starting Autumn 2017

A unique opportunity to become involved in pioneering work with pre-teen girls!
with Kim McCabe and Helena Løvendal

Limited places  – enquire now!

Do you feel you have an affinity for the teenage stage of life?

  • Would you like to join a group of pioneering women supporting mothers and daughters in making the transition from girl to woman a lasting life-enhancing experience?
  • You might remember your own issues from your teenage years – and be interested in exploring the importance of this life stage in more depth.
  • Would you like to be able to support girls through this challenging phase?

You can acquire the skills and knowledge to deliver year-long Girls Journeying Together Groups as part of a professional foundation.

Facilitator Training Taster Day – come see if this is for you!

This session will be an opportunity for you to meet both of us and give you a flavour of the training and help you decide if this work is right for you at this time in your life.

Training taster day in London on June 3rd 10am – 5pm in north London NW5.

To secure your place book below or send a cheque for £40 to Rites For Girls (email kim@ritesforgirls.com for address) and we will send you confirmation details.




Girls Journeying Together Groups

First session Friday 28th April – two spaces left

Free Trial Session for girls (with Mums)
on Friday 17th March 2017, 5pm – 7pm
or Saturday 18th March 10am – 12pm

Best Friends Forever

Girls’ Journeying Together
– a year-long exploration
with a small group of girls your age

Who?      Pre-teen girls; aged 10-12yrs (in year 6 and 7)
When?    Monthly, 3 hours at the weekend, starting on 28th April.
Where?   Forest Row, Sussex
When?    Free trial session with Mums:  5-7pm  Friday 17th March 2017
                                                   or 10am-12pm Saturday 18th March 2017

To book or ask more contact Kim 07929 869801  ☙  kim@ritesforgirls.com

LIMITED SPACES  –   BOOK TRIAL NOW!

Journeying towards Womanhood

How do you guide your daughter from childhood, through puberty, and towards womanhood?

This is a place for mothers with daughters to look for guidance, share experiences, and support one another.

in her first five years

in her pre-teens

into her teens

in her mid to late teens

Looking for a Girls Journeying Together Group?

Rites for Girls Foundation will soon have a database of accredited facilitators who can offer Girls Journeying Together Groups around the world.

 

Posted on 6 March 2017
Musings: Parenting girls

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Girls Journeying Together Group

 

First Session for girls
on Friday 12th May 2017, 4:30pm – 7:30pm

 

Best Friends Forever

Every year around spring time, I start another of my year-long Girls Journeying Together groups.  A dozen or so 10-12 years olds sit in a circle in my sitting room nervously wondering how we will pass the afternoon.

We meet monthly, so they’ll get a sense of what monthly feels like, and we cover all manner of things over the year.  Their needs and concerns help to determine their year’s programme.  Over the year I provide the space for each girl to:

  • dream into her future
  • clarify her values
  • learn about the changes that puberty brings
  • discuss the pressures of peers, media, and parents
  • prepare for her first period and support one another in their bleeding time
  • get to know each other really well; well enough to dare to speak their innermost fears and heartfelt hopes
  • (only if the time is right) talk of dating, safe sex, diets, drinking, drugs, cutting, exam pressures and other teen concerns
  • share her experiences
  • laugh and cry and dance and feast
  • find mentors
  • and in time become a mentor herself.

A year later we finish with a celebration and those dozen girls are full of affection for one another and feel well-prepared for what lies ahead.

“At first I didn’t think I’d like it, but it’s brilliant, we talk about things, really talk, so you realise that others feel the same way.”

“I’ve made friends for life I’d say.” 

“I was nervous about growing up – I’m not now.”

“You can ask anything.”

“We’ve had loads of fun, and learned stuff but it hasn’t felt like learning.”

“It got me thinking about who I want to be – what I want to do with my life.”

Every girl needs a circle of women, and the company of other girls, with whom to learn about womanhood.  Some girls are lucky to live in communities that naturally provide this female support.  Many girls are not so fortunate.  When families have busy lives, lived far from extended family, and children spend most of their time in the company of children, then a girls’ group can fill the gap.

I wish that coming-of-age groups were commonplace, then girls would expect it as their right, rather than needing their mothers to encourage them to try it out.

We focus on teaching our children algebra, tectonic plate movements, and what befell the wives of King Henry VIII, and then leave the fundamental issues of maturation up to chance chats with family, the modeling of soaps and films, and the immature influence of peers.  We give swimming lessons before diving into the sea, and driving lessons are mandatory before taking to the roads solo – so why not insist on structured adult support in the preparation of our children for adulthood?  Most religions and many tribes still recognise the importance of guiding our children safely towards adulthood, and offer them a rite of passage while they are actively engaged in this maturation process; but we have lost sight of it, blinded by the chase for qualifications.  I feel sad to find myself in a culture that often values grades, awards, and medals over relationships, and developing a healthy sense of self.

The more ‘developed’ we become, the more we abandon our teenagers and leave them to invent their own idealizations for adulthood – and to make their own markers to prove their adulthood (often using drink, sex, driving, and other risk-taking).

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Girls look to the women in their lives to give them a sense of what it is like to be a woman.  The women they like, they emulate; and the women they don’t like, they strive to be different from.

Many girls find themselves with only one woman who knows them well, their own mother.  If fortunate, a girl will also have a smattering of aunties, grandmothers, godmothers, cousins, friend’s mothers and mother’s friends who know her and care for her.  She may also have a special teacher, tutor, or coach.  Even then, many girls rarely have the opportunity of hearing women speak of their dreams, their passions, their relationships and their bodies.  And yet, we want our girls to find their own futures, to know what is important to them, to discover what they love to do, to form firm friendships, and to like themselves well enough.  Too often seeking these vital goals are left to chance, or left in the hands of schools, or the influence of social media.

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Rites for Girls has an free trial session for any girl aged 10-12yrs (in year 6 or 7) who might be interested to join the next Girls Journeying Together group.  Girls come from London, Brighton and all over Sussex and Kent.

Girls’ Journeying Together
– a year-long exploration
with a small group of girls your age

Who?      Pre-teen girls; aged 10-12yrs (in year 6 and 7)
When?    Monthly, 3 hours at the weekend, starting in May.
Where?   Forest Row, Sussex
When?    First session :  4:30-7:30pm  Friday 12th May 2017

Dates:  Friday group 4:30-7:30pm
28 April 19, 26 May 2017, 16 June, 14 July, 22 Sept, 13 Oct (with Mums), 17 Nov, 8 Dec 2017
5 Jan 2018, 2 Feb, 9 Mar, 20 Apr 2018 (final celebration with mothers)

I am a trained facilitator, youth guidance worker, counsellor, 5 Rhythms movement teacher, and a mother of three.

To book or ask more contact Kim 01342 810505  ☙  kim@ritesforgirls.com

LIMITED SPACES  –   BOOK TRIAL NOW!

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Posted on 1 May 2017
Musings: Parenting girls

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Exciting opportunity!

Join the first ‘Rites for Girls’ International Facilitator Training  starting November 2017

A unique opportunity to become involved in pioneering work with pre-teen girls!

with Kim McCabe and Helena Løvendal

Training Taster Day – come see if this is for you!

Training taster day in London on June 3rd 10am – 5pm.  This session will be an opportunity for you to meet both of us and give you a flavour of the training and help you decide if this work is right for you at this time in your life.  The taster session will be held at in north London NW5.  To secure your place book below or send a cheque for £40 to Rites For Girls (email kim@ritesforgirls.com for address) and we will send you confirmation details.


‘Rites for Girls’ International Facilitator Training  starting November 2017

Do you feel you have an affinity for the teenage stage of life?

  • Would you like to join a group of pioneering women supporting mothers and daughters in making the transition from girl to woman a lasting life-enhancing experience?
  • You might remember your own issues from your teenage years – and be interested in exploring the importance of this life stage in more depth.

Teenagers are stressed. Many girls are feeling the pressure to do well at school, look good, stay connected on social media, get on with their parent and fit in. Sadly many girls are showing the signs of not coping and mental health concerns are on the rise.

  • Would you like to be able to support girls through this challenging phase?

You can acquire the skills and knowledge to deliver year-long ‘Girls Journeying Together Groups as part of a professional foundation.  Girls Journeying Together groups meet monthly (to give girls a sense of what monthly feels like) and led by an older woman they talk about the changes to come.  Our girls discover what is important to them, think about their futures, form firm friendships, and build the confidence to be themselves.  At the end of a year they finish with a celebration.  This way you can guide girls through their adolescence, reducing some of the pressures and helping them to emerge into adulthood as strong, sure, capable young women.

Limited places  – enquire now!

‘Rites for Girls’ is offering a diploma training to enable women to run Girls Journeying Together Groups. You will learn how to facilitate small groups of 11 and 12 year-old girls, meeting monthly for a year, as they practice being true to themselves, learn about puberty, share their hopes and fears, and help each other into their teens.  This forms the basis for you to offer continued support right through their teens.

Girls are being turned away – we need more facilitators!

This professional programme is taught by Kim McCabe and Helena Løvendal, and entails a mixture of residential group training, individual support, peer groups, written work, and supervised practical experience – with four residential weeks held over a year.

Year-long training including four residential weeks in Sussex, England
18-25th November 2017  •  18-25th March 2018
17-24th June 2018    •   11-18th November 2018

Training fee:  £3960
Early bird 10% discount for full payment by 30th August:  £3600
plus residential costs

Participants will have the opportunity to earn the course fees back through their supervised facilitation of a Girls Journeying Together group which they start in the second six months of the course.

Frequently Asked Questions are answered here

Training is being offered to women who have some experience of being with girls aged 11-18 years, who already have some group work training, counselling skills, or other relevant experience such as youth work or teaching.  You will acquire the skills and knowledge to deliver year-long Girls Journeying Together Groups and be accredited to do so once you meet the course requirements.  Please don’t hesitate to contact us to ask more.  As we have a limited number of places, we will hold a waiting list for the following year’s training.

This is important pioneering work – if you are interested in finding out more about this training, please contact Kim or Helena :

kim@ritesforgirls.com                    helenalovendal@gmail.com

Limited places  – enquire now!
kim_portraitdKim McCabe is the founder/director of Rites for Girls since 2011 and home-educating mother of three.  As originator and facilitator of Girls Journeying Together programmes she offers year-long groups for girls and simultaneous support for their mothers.  She studied child psychology at Cambridge University, was a counsellor to distressed teenagers, carried out sex education in schools and youth groups, trained as an assertiveness trainer, 5Rhythms shamanic dance teacher, and business management consultant.  After thirty years of research and working with young people she seeks ways to support girls through their teens and is author of forthcoming book ‘From Daughter to Woman – parenting girls safely through their teens’ published by Robinson Publishing.

Helena Løvendal: Born Denmark, 1958: In private practice in London, UK, since 1988. Co- founder/director The Centre For Gender Psychology & Creative Couple Work. Originator of ‘Ways of Woman’ inner leadership programs since 1993. Helena offers psychotherapy, coaching and workshops for individuals and couples, as well as specialist training and supervision for professionals in the field of relationships, sex and gender relations in UK, Europe, and Scandinavia.  Amongst the first qualified Sexual Grounding Therapists®, she is a SGT Senior Trainer and Head of Education SGT International since May 2013. Her first book “Sex, Love and the Dangers of Intimacy – a Guide to Passionate Relationships when The ‘Honeymoon’ is over”, published by HarperCollins in 2002, re-published in 2010 by Lone Arrow Press.  www.genderpsychology.com   www.creativecouplework.com   www.sexualgrounding.com

 

Limited places – enquire now!

 

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Posted on 21 December 2016
Musings: Parenting girls

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